중고등학교 아이들은 아빠를 "꼰대"라고 부른다는데...
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아이들이 휠씬 빠른 속도로 인생을 사는 것 같다. 적어도 지금 세상에서는 말이다. 그들의 속도를 따라 잡을 수가 없다.
출세한 선배 한 분께서 저녁을 같이하면서 세상에서 마음대로 되지 않는 것이 두 가지가 있는데, 그 중 하나가 "골프"이고 또 다른 하나는 "자식 농사"라고 하셨다. 선배의 말씀에 좌중은 모두 공감하는 모습이었다. 이렇듯 선배는 후배들에게 교훈이되는 한 마디 말과 함께 저녁 식사값을 지불하시고는 멋지게 지리를 뜨셨다. 선배는 후배에게 교훈을 주신다. 이 말에 나도 후배들에게 이런거야 저런거야를 남발했었음을 고백하지 않을 수 없다.
후배들에게 이런 교훈이 좋았을지 모르나, 한창 관심 두뇌 확장기에 있는 아이들의 생각은 다르다고 오히려 후배들이 충고했다. 말을 정리하면 아빠는 변하는 존재라는 것. 시기를 잘 맞추어 대응하라는 조언을 얻었다.
유치원 다닐 때 아빠는 "슈퍼맨"이었다. 초등학교 1~2학년때면 "박사"님이 따로 없고, 중학교 초반까지는 "훌륭한 사람"으로, 대학입학 전까지는 "잔소리 많은 꼰대"로, 입사전까지는 "돈도 별로 없고 직장에서는 거의 사용가치가 없는 퇴물"로 급격한 하향세를 보이다가, 취업을 통한 사회 진출시에는 "그래도 당시에는 쓸만했었던 사람"에서 결혼하고 자식을 낳으면 "존경하는 분"으로 자리가 바뀐다고 했다. 나는 지금 아이들에게 "꼰대"의 위치에 와 있다. 어록을 만들어 지침이 되고자도 해보았지만 사회적인 인지도가 낮다보니 먹힐리 없지 않는가?
일요일 오후, 아이들을 위한 특별 간식을 준비하다가 잠시 딴전을 피우냐고 띄은 인터넷에서 검색 상위에 오른 '빌 게이츠 어록'이 눈에 들어왔다.
빌게이츠가 약 3년전 마운틴 휘트니(Mt. Whitney) 고등학교에서 학생들에게 들려줬다는 인생충고 10가지. 10가지 모두가 공감가는 말들이었다. 아마도 이런 말들을 꼰대 수준에서 받아들이지 않았으면 한다.
RULE 1
Life is not fair - get used to it.
RULE 2
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
RULE 3
You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice president with car phone, until you earn both.
RULE 4
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure.
RULE 5
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping
they called it Opportunity.
RULE 6
If you mess up,it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
RULE 7
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
RULE 8
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in
helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.
RULE 9
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
RULE 10
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
Life is not fair - get used to it.
RULE 2
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
RULE 3
You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice president with car phone, until you earn both.
RULE 4
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure.
RULE 5
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping
they called it Opportunity.
RULE 6
If you mess up,it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
RULE 7
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
RULE 8
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in
helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.
RULE 9
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
RULE 10
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
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